Demonstrate the Sorrow...

I love crime shows! Whether it's a crime drama like Criminal Minds or a docu-drama like 48 Hours Mystery on ID, I love them all! My husband always tells me I missed my calling, that I should have gone into the criminal justice field. One of my favorite shows is NCIS. One of the lead characters on this show has several rules for his team. One rule is: "Never say you're sorry." It's a sign of weakness. Now as much as I like the character of Leroy Jethro Gibbs, I have to really disagree with him on this point. Contrary to what the world thinks, I believe admitting to a mistake, accepting responsibility for it and apologizing is a sign of strength and maturity, especially if you sincerely mean it. Do you remember what your parents did when you did something wrong as a child? If your parents are anything like mine, they made you apologize and probably hug or shake hands with the other party. To be honest, I doubt I really meant it. I just didn't want to get into more trouble or get a spanking. (Side note: Yes, I was spanked.  Yes, it hurt. Yes, it did deter bad behavior. No, I'm not a violent person. No, I do not abuse my husband or dog as a result. No, I don't have "self esteem issues". And YES, I'm glad I was spanked!!)  Scripture makes it clear we are to have a repentant heart, willing to confess and turn from sin---sin against God and sin against one another. Sincerity is a critical element to repentance. I have a favorite saying: "Demonstrate the sorrow by not repeating the action." Admitting you made a mistake or did something hurtful and asking for forgiveness tells that other person that you value their relationship more than your own pride. Refraining from that same behavior reinforces your sincerity and your value of the relationship. It's a humbling thing to admit you're wrong, but doing so is good for your spirit. While never easy, it is a discipline that must be practiced if we want to have fruitful and fulfilling relationships with others.

So, today's challenge. Search your heart. Is there someone from whom you need to seek forgiveness? Do you need to make a phone call or set up a lunch meeting to make things right? If so, do it. Do it today. Take a step forward in your walk with Christ. Humble yourself and ask for forgiveness. Trust me. You'll be glad you did!

Blessings,
Teresa